Our PSHE lessons are based on the ‘7 c’s of resilience’ and cover;
- Coping – mental health awareness
- Character – Emotional Awareness
- Control – Emotional Intelligence
- Confidence – Self esteem
- Competence – Positive psychology & playing to your strengths
- Connection – Helpful listening and reaching out to others
- Contribution – Peer support
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(The 7 Cs are an adaptation from The Positive Youth Development movement)
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The 7 Cs: The Essential Building Blocks of Resilience
Young people live up or down to expectations we set for them. They need adults who believe in them unconditionally and hold them to the high expectations of being compassionate, generous, and creative.
Competence: When we notice what young people are doing right and give them opportunities to develop important skills, they feel competent. We undermine competence when we don’t
allow young people to recover themselves after a fall.
Confidence: Young people need confidence to be able to navigate the world, think outside the box, and recover from challenges.
Connection: Connections with other people, schools, and communities offer young people the security that allows them to stand on their own and develop creative solutions.
Character: Young people need a clear sense of right and wrong and a commitment to integrity.
Contribution: Young people who contribute to the wellbeing of others will receive gratitude rather than condemnation. They will learn that contributing feels good, and may therefore more easily turn to others, and do so without shame.
Coping: Young people who possess a variety of healthy coping strategies will be less likely to turn to dangerous quick fixes when stressed.
Control: Young people who understand privileges and respect are earned through demonstrated responsibility will learn to make wise choices and feel a sense of control.
What we do to model healthy resilience strategies for our children is more important than anything we say about them.
Questions to ask yourselves;
by Kenneth Ginsburg, M.D.,M.S.Ed
The Essential 2 questions:
- Within our walls, do we believe in every young person unconditionally and hold them to high expectations?
- Do we sincerely believe that every child can succeed?
- Do we see the best in our youth so that they can see the best in themselves?
- Do we clearly express that we expect the best in them?
- Do we help them recognize what they have done right? (Confidence comes from knowing that one has competence.)
- Do we help them understand that they have authentic survival skills?
- Do we treat them as incapable children or young adults learning to navigate a difficult world?
- Do we catch them when they are doing the right thing?
- Do we encourage them to strive just a little bit further because we believe they can succeed?
- Do we avoid instilling shame?
- Do we see what a young person has done right? Or do we focus on their mistakes?
- Do we help our youth recognize what they have going for themselves?
- Are we helping to build the authentic skills that make them competent in the real world? Educational Skills / Social Skills / Anger Management Skills / Work Skills / Interview Skills / Stress Reduction Skills
- Do we communicate in a way that empowers them to make their own decisions, or do we undermine their sense of competence by lecturing them thereby giving them information in a style they cannot grasp? Rather than talking down to them, do we instead deliver information in a manner they understand?
- Do we let them make safe mistakes so they have the opportunity to right themselves . . . or do we protect them from every bump and bruise?
- Do we praise in a way that notices effort more than it rewards the product?
- Are we helping them to recognize themselves as caring people?
- Do we allow them to clarify their own values?
- Do we allow them to consider right versus wrong and look beyond immediate needs?
- Do we help them understand how their behaviour affects others?
- Do we help them develop a sense of spirituality that fits into their (not our) belief system?
- Do we value them so clearly that we model for them how important it is to care for others?
- Do we value each other so clearly that we demonstrate the importance of community?
- Do we value each young person, and promote the understanding that when all reach their potential, every child benefits?
- Do we recognize that adults’ unconditional belief in a young person— and holding them to high expectations—is the single most important factor determining whether they will be able to overcome challenging circumstances?
- Do we enter young people’s lives without permission, or do we give them time to understand we are worthy of their trust?
- Do we build a sense of safe community within our walls?
- Do we encourage young people to take pride in the various ethnic, religious, or cultural groups they belong to?
- Do we recognize that for many of our most troubled youth, the firm attachment to a stable family might be missing? Further, do we know that our role as stable caring adults takes on an even greater importance?
- Do we have a TV and self-contained entertainment system in every room, or do we create a common space so people share time together? Does everyone exist in their own world hiding behind earphones, and texting distant friends, or is communication happening here?
- Do we recognize that so many of the risk behaviours youth engage in are attempts at reducing the stress/pain in their lives?
- Do we condemn young people for their behaviours? Do we increase their sense of shame and therefore drive them toward those behaviours?
- Do we believe that telling youth to “just stop!” the negative behaviours will do any good?
- Do we guide youth to develop positive, effective coping strategies?
- Do we help young people understand when their thoughts are magnifying problems; do we help them to make realistic assessments?
- Do we model positive coping strategies on a daily basis?
- Do we encourage caring for our bodies through exercise, good nutrition, and adequate sleep?
- Does our community have resources where children can safely play and exercise either in the outdoors, or in recreational centers?
- Do we encourage creative expression? Does our community offer resources and programs where children and teens are able to learn and practice creative expression?
- Do we encourage written and verbal expression in a way that allows each youth to reveal thoughts in a comfortable manner, whether through talking, journaling, poetry or rap?
- Do we create an environment where talking, listening, and sharing is safe and productive?
- Do we model relaxation techniques?
- As we struggle to compose ourselves so we can make the fairest, wisest decisions, do we model how we take control rather than respond impulsively?
- Do we make clear that we believe our youth can make the world a better place?
- As we create programs that serve youth, do we include them in the planning process, appreciating that they are the experts on themselves and their own needs?
- Do we create opportunities for each youth to contribute to the community?
- Do we share how important a value it is to serve others?
- Do we help our young people recognize that precisely because they have come through difficult times they are positioned to guide others how to improve their lives?
- Do we search in each person’s life for another individual for whom they might serve as a role model? Do we use this to encourage them to be the best person they can possibly be?
- Do we help them to understand that if they have messed up in their past—their recovery serves as a model?
- Do we help young people understand that life is not purely random?
- Do we help them, on the other hand, to understand that they are not responsible for many of the bad circumstances that may have plagued them?
- Do we help them think about the future but take one step at a time?
- Do we help them recognize their mini-successes so they can experience the knowledge that they can succeed?
- Do we help youth understand that while no one can control all their circumstances each person can shift the odds by choosing positive or protective behaviours?
- Do we understand that youth who have been hurt emotionally or physically may think they have no control and therefore have no reason to take positive action?
- Do we understand that discipline is about teaching not punishing or controlling. Do we use discipline as a means to help someone understand that their actions produce consequences (i.e., life is not random)?
Kenneth Ginsburg, M.D., M.S. Ed
Dr. Ginsburg is a pediatrician specializing in Adolescent Medicine at The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia and a Professor of Pediatrics at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine. He also serves Philadelphia’s homeless youth as Director of Health Services at Covenant House Pennsylvania. The theme that ties together his clinical practice, teaching, research and advocacy efforts is that of building on the strength of teenagers by fostering their internal resilience. His goal is to translate the best of what is known from research and practice into practical approaches parents, professionals and communities can use to prepare children and teens to thrive.
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